The most common first response to the discovery of an affair is shock, often even after early suspicions have been on the emotional radar. Once the discovery has been made, we begin to reflect on the past & present with a new fear of how far the deceptions & dishonesty have gone. A sense of Continue Reading
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The most common thing said in groups dealing with sexual abuse is that it each person never thought they would find someone who had also been sexually abused. Each situation is different but there is a commonality of the trauma that was inflicted and the after effects. Feeling isolated, that no one else knows Continue Reading
More people are reporting sexual abuse in the world today although in most cultures it is considered something that is not to be discussed. Sexual Abuse is very damaging to the person and will affect them for the rest of their life. It is surprising that it has taken this long to have more Continue Reading
Any significant loss brings with it profound grief. Most people don’t realize the difficulty however in the recovery to follow. Most people see the grief as linear and by that I mean that they feel each day they should be a little better. Healthy grief however looks a little bit more like a roller coaster ride Continue Reading
When couples get stuck, Dr Johnson’s work has shown that couples end up in one of 3 basic conflictual patterns. These patterns are common to some degree in all marriages but in stable marriages, partners recognize the misstep and adjust their participation in the relationship to be more available. The three basic patterns that couples get stuck Continue Reading
Affairs reek havoc on relationships, and leave devastation in their wake that make the victim often complain of feeling like a fool. It takes time but in order for the victim to recover adequately, they have to come to the place of accepting that “trust”, ulitimate trust that is necessary to be married is not Continue Reading
I cannot tell you how many times, clients come to my office not having developed a support network of friends. Would you like not having to pay for a therapist? Would you like to have a therapeutic relief of your feelings around issues you face? And have all of it available much more readily than Continue Reading
Softer feelings help our partner hear our voice, our person, in a way that the larger, harsher feelings do not. Are you hurting, lonely, sad? Specific feelings along this line help you talk about your needs & be less blaming of your partner. On the positive side, tell your spouse when you feel special. Try Continue Reading
Emotions are a powerful foundation to most of our experience, often driving us when we don’t realize it. EFT works with a couple or family to introduce a heart-felt understanding to their experiences. We look behind the pain, loss, despair or desparation to help each person convey the core of their feelings that drive these experiences. Continue Reading
I see parents who come in feeling distraught & shamed over their child’s acting out & struggles. This is especially hard when these behaviors have come as a result of mistakes we make. After over 30 years of working with parents of teens, I have seen parents struggle with these issues because they don’t realize Continue Reading
