Using Feelings To Soften Your Words
Softer feelings help our partner hear our voice, our person, in a way that the larger, harsher feelings do not. Are you hurting, lonely, sad? Specific feelings along this line help you talk about your needs & be less blaming of your partner. On the positive side, tell your spouse when you feel special. Try “I feel important when you ….” or it makes me smile when you….” and watch them light up. So “feel it”, and ask your spouse to meet you there.