Category Archives: conflict

After the Affair: Shock!

The most common first response to the discovery of an affair is shock, often even after early suspicions have been on the emotional radar.  Once the discovery has been made, we begin to reflect on the past & present with a new fear of how far the deceptions & dishonesty have gone.  A sense of Continue Reading

Boundaries are often a delicate art of managing feelings that leaves many of us uncomfortable in our relationships, families & friends.  Saying no to what we struggle with however is essential to living a healthy lifestyle.  Most of us do not realize that we’re saying no all the time, especially those of us who live Continue Reading

When couples get stuck, Dr Johnson’s work has shown that couples end up in one of 3 basic conflictual patterns.  These patterns are common to some degree in all marriages but in stable marriages, partners recognize the misstep and adjust their participation in the relationship to be more available.  The three basic patterns that couples get stuck Continue Reading

Affairs reek havoc on relationships, and leave devastation in their wake that make the victim often complain of feeling like a fool.   It takes time but in order for the victim to recover adequately, they have to come to the place of accepting that “trust”, ulitimate trust that is necessary to be married is not Continue Reading